We celebrated Lilah's 3rd birthday with a "Backyardigans" party, which means I had invitations printed, we had a cookie cake, and treat bags...all with her favorite faces....Pablo and his gang (pictured below).
Birthdays are hard around here. Just like most things in this path we are on, the emotions run the spectrum from extreme joy and thanksgiving to profound sadness and grief. Of course we are overwhelmed by the blessing of her 3 years, but we are also more clearly aware, on 'milestone moments' of the trials that we have endured and the difficulties that lay ahead.
After the disastrous song and an even poorer reception of 'gift opening', I was having a little pity party for myself. My sadness met total understanding when I saw my husband's face. He told me, "you are sad because it's sad". Paul is deep, I know:)...but he's totally right. It sucks that Lilah is limited in the ways that she is. It's terrible that the other little girls are running around trading charms for their bracelets and she is eating crayons. This was not my plan for her and it is just plain hard. As much as we feel like we've 'accepted it', I am learning that there is new acceptance to work on at each new stage. And probably, more truthfully, I am never going to be "OK" with it...it will always be hard.
At the end of the party, she was happy as could be, watching her Backyardigans on the iPad....looking up to see if her mommy and daddy were enjoying it as much as she. And I felt better. We had not done permanent damage. Lesson learned. She is helping us navigate this path, isn't she? Lilah may not talk, but you know exactly how she feels by the look on her face. She has very few expectations and most of them are to be in the comfort of those she loves--and we do adore this girl! Lilah loves life and people with her whole heart....a love that is fierce and pure. And she has taught us a lifetime of lessons in her 3 years.
We continue to covet your prayers for her life--prayers that God will protect and bless Lilah, whatever that looks like--and most importantly, that His will be done in her life.